Monday, 19 July 2010

Domestic Violence – wtf are people thinking?

Is it me or do some people seriously think that domestic violence is okay if the victim is a fame-seeking gold digger? I know it may sound like an exaggeration but the discussions around the latest Mel Gibson tapes to surface make me conclude there are those who would argue that someone like Oksana Grigorieva deserves to be beaten up because of the type of person she is.

I have yet to hear Mel Gibson issue a statement saying that the person on the tapes is not him, likewise the sympathetic public haven’t even called the identity of the man spouting profanities and threatening a woman on the tape. Instead they question the kind of woman who would record her partner and then leak the tape. To that I would say the kind of woman who wants to expose him for the cowardly thug that he is.

But seriously, I can’t help but wonder if those who defend him have lost their minds. It may well be temporary insanity but it certainly seems like some brand of madness.

His ex-wife has rushed to his defence saying that in their 28 years of marriage he never laid a finger on her as though this were irrefutable proof that he could not have hit or abused Oksana. Likewise his friend Whoopi Goldberg defended the charge of racism as though being black gives her authority to declare what is racist and what isn’t. Referring to Latino workers as ‘wetbacks’ or using the ‘N’ word when you’re a very rich actor is apparently not racist. You heard it from Ms Goldberg first.

The sickening part though comes from the online readers –those who flood the Daily Mail with comments from all over the globe – sympathising with Mel, insulting Oksana and not once calling into question the behaviour of a man who responds to:

'You were hitting a woman with a child in her hands. What kind of man is that?' [….] 'Hitting a woman when she's holding a child in her hands, breaking her teeth twice in the face. What kind of man is that?'


'You know what? You f***ing deserved it.'

I mean is it me or does he deserve nothing short of years in prison being someone else’s b****?

When Chris Brown hit Rihanna and left her face all swollen and unrecognisable, the world rightly condemned his actions. He was criticised by almost everyone, his records were no longer played on some radio stations, in short he was publically shamed.

So why are there people, and it would seem many seemingly sane people who would defend such vile behaviour because the person in question in Mel Gibson and the woman at the other end is supposedly an attention seeking money grabbing opportunist? I could care less if she is after his money, so what? He’s a grown up and should be able to make sound decisions about who he dates or more sobering has a child with. Judging from the tapes, he clearly thinks that his position and money give him the right to treat people however he feels. Only a coward would lay a hand on someone who is physically weaker than them. Domestic violence will never end when people operate double standards. It was wrong for Chris Brown to hit Rihanna and it is equally wrong for Mel Gibson to hit Oksana Grigorieva. Their personalities or personal motives should not come into play. And we should speak out against it in unison otherwise it will never end.

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